Although I know that plenty of people out there read my blog, I rarely get comments. I'm not sure why. But my friends, I'm looking for a response here, so help a sister out, would ya?
Pray tell, can you please tell me what the difference is between two friends (meaning a boy and a girl) meeting up for lunch and a "date"?
k thanks. I'm looking forward to your comments.
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sometimes who pays.
sometimes how you look at eachother over your plates.
sometimes who asks.
sometimes who knows.
Ja. What she said.
On a less gnomic note: if the point of this meeting was to be at lunch with each other for the sake of each other's company, then either it's a date or the two of you are pals.
If it was planned, (not just, "Hey, I'm hungry, let's go eat"), and if the person who planned it paid for both meals, it's a date, UNLESS it has been established in the past that you are only pals.
If it was spontaneous and/or you went shares, then it's just pals having lunch, UNLESS it has been established that it was, in fact, a date.
That's how I would parse it, anyway.
Good question. It depends on who the two people are. It’s hard to know the intentions of other people.
i would agree with what has been said so far..
Elder Oaks says a date is planed, paid for, and paired off.
But you can add intention and acknowledgment on both side of the party.
I agree with the comment about the intentions of both parties. I would even go so far to say it would include romantic interest. I've been out on a lot of planned, paid for, paired off dinners that were not dates.
It is whether or not you kiss. And how wet the kiss is. Or how each party imagines it.
And I'll throw the word gnomic in there as well....gnomic?
oh my gosh, i'm cracking up over daryl. geez, all he thinks about is action.
my opinion...hmmmm, yeah i would have to concur w/ the other comments. although, the big kicker is are both parties interested (starting out on a spectrum of course)?
if yes, wonderful. if no, well give it one more time to see if something happens. and if it doesn't happen on his end, my opinion is it's his loss.
Okay, first of all, whoever Daryl is, he's funny.
Okay have to say that really, you shouldn't go out to "lunch" with a guy if you like him "like that" EVER. I was taught that if he REALLY wants to go "out" with you, like on a "date" that you should make HIM imply whether or not its more then a meal. Does that make sense?
If a guy asks you to lunch and your not sure if he's into you like that, then politely turn him down (if you want more than friendship) and wait for him to ask you again, and hopefully this time to dinner. Which in my experience is ... a date. If he "likes" you then he'll ask for the second round, if he's just a friend then you might get a lunch invite again because he doesn't want to eat alon. :( But either way, make HIM work for YOU! Your worth it.
i'm loving the comments people. keep it coming.
ps. we went out again and had a really good time. maybe its just me freaking out because i think i really like him, but i still don't know if he likes me as more than a friend.
pss. if he's my friend on facebook what are the odds that he reads this blog and is reading this comment right now?
...I'd say the odds are pretty good, actually. If he's ever Googlefished you, that would work too.
You just can't keep anything private on the Internet these days. ;)
well, if he googled me and found this, i'd probably just be flattered that he was thinking of me. so whatever. :)
i think guys should take courage and use the word "date" when they ask a girl out for the 1st time. If a guy doesn't i feel as though he is into Pseudo Dating. which as Lisa Simpson would put it "I think that's pretty spurious"
Hmmm... I think it's all about intentions, and the butterflies that may or may not accompany said lunch/date/lunch-date.
xox
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